If you take a look at the men who congregate at any social outing, you’ll notice they have a tendency to huddle in semi-circle looking at women. They attempt to be discrete at first, but as the liquor pours on, they forget about their efforts to cover up their blatant staring. And if you look closely, those men are slightly covering their mouths with their drinks so they can talk to each other about what they see and share scouting reports. Seems a bit much right? It actually is. The things these men are trying to decipher are:
1) Where are the good looking shorties?
2) Anybody know a specific shorty?
3) What are my chances at taking that shorty home?
Notice that none of these men have an interest in a relationship with any of the women. But they will spend their entire night going through those three questions. It will be the catalyst for his entire night; what he does, what he buys and how long he stays. Now, when you consider this vantage point, also consider that most men spend the majority of their time at work. After that, the priorities are usually family and friends. Thinking about a mate is low on his list of priorities and doesn’t get a lot of his time. So why is he wasting his time on some jumpoff?
Perhaps, the better question is, how do jumpoffs garner so much attention from men? Especially, when there are better options available. The answer is simple, because it’s the nature of men.
Men Are Visual
All men will tell you that just because a woman is good looking doesn’t mean she is right for you. What they won’t tell you is that if a man doesn’t find you attractive, he’ll likely never approach you. So, I’m not sure what that first statement means. As women, consider what you’ve seen. Men spend a lot of time on the Internet gushing over video vixens. They know absolutely nothing about those women or their mental capacity to carry a conversation, however, they are smitten. So, when a man sees a scantily clad woman out on the town, they’d rather stare at her for hours than look at any woman who’s dressed appropriately.
“Men will rather take the trout in the river than the marlin in the ocean.”
This is an analogy that originated from a popular movie in 2010, but the concept is simple. You can catch a lot of small fishes or you can spend a long time catching the big fish. When a man thinks in the short term about picking a mate, he thinks about what he’s willing to bring to the table and what she’s going to bring to the table. Most men out on the town aren’t looking for their wife. If he finds her … then, yes. But they aren’t searching for that. They are looking for a short-term option of satisfaction, and by short-term option I don’t just mean a one-night stand. When a man looks at a jumpoff, he realizes that he’s not going to have to put much effort into that situation. When he looks at wifey material, he fully understands that in order to court and win this woman over, he’s going to have to be about his business. And that’s going to lead him to putting in work. The exact opposite of what he’d like to do.
“Ain’t no shame in her game.”
Easy women have no self-respect. None. And that puts them in a nothing-to-lose position. And you know what they say about fighting someone who has nothing to lose: don’t. For a man looking to hit a homerun on the first toss, a jumpoff doesn’t mind being that homerun. And that makes them successful at finding men. You won’t ever see a woman with any self-respect leaving the house with the cheeks of her butt hanging below her skirt, or wearing tights instead of leggings. Jumpoffs? They let it ride …
Someone asked me on Twitter the other day, “Jay why do jumpoffs garner so much attention from men?” And as I said earlier, it’s a quantity-not-quality thing. They get a little attention from men, while better options receive no attention. It’s about the man’s lacking want to do the necessary work to win over the girl he’s dubbed as “wifey material.” You shouldn’t let it get to you, or cause you to change your ways. Trust me, when a man takes up a wife, he sets aside those childish games.
Written By @DrJayJack
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